The male taboo of baldness: how to deal with it? Testimonials and options
Hair anxiety, a deep-rooted male taboo
You get up in the morning, the feeling in your stomach getting heavier the closer you get to the mirror... Only to find yourself face to face with THE male complex that millions of men have to deal with: baldness. Hair loss, often gradual, sometimes brutal, always merciless, represents much more than a simple cosmetic change. Despite its prevalence, hair loss is still surrounded by many societal taboos. Let's take advantage of Ben Nevert's video "LA CALVITIE ENTRE MECS" to break them down, with authentic testimonials from the 3 men invited. Let's have a real talk about hair loss, its psychological impact and how to overcome it.
Men's complex baldness menu
The emotional toll of hair loss: When identity unravels
For many men, hair is intrinsically linked to their image, their youth and even their virility. Hair loss, or androgenetic alopecia, is more than just a matter of hair follicles. It often results in a profound loss of self-confidence. The video takes a look back at the process of making the video and the impact it has had on the outlook of all those involved.
The hardest part is realising it:
As the guests mentioned, the realisation is often an important, even dramatic, moment. Sometimes it's insidious: a few extra hairs on the pillow, in the shower (as Jolan mentions), a density slyly diminishing. Other times, it's an external remark, innocent like that of a child (Adalbert) or more direct like that of Ali's brother touching his bald head, triggering a real electroshock. This moment when we 'realise' that we're losing our hair often marks the start of an intense period of anxiety.
The impact on identity :
Ali, who has curly hair, explains how her hair was an integral part of her identity. Losing your hair meant seeing a part of yourself disappear. Adalbert backs this up: he started losing his hair at the age of 17, and felt out of step with other men his age, feeling that he was ageing prematurely. This feeling that he no longer recognises himself is a major source of complex.
How others (and you) see baldness:
The fear of judgement, the fear of no longer being attractive, the impression of being less attractive... These thoughts torment many men faced with baldness. The stress generated by focusing on hair loss can even, ironically, accelerate it, creating a vicious circle that's hard to break. (see article)
And no, you're not alone - thousands of others are experiencing this legitimate sense of unease. In an image-driven society, especially in the age of social media, where youth is often associated with a full head of hair, it's only human to be affected by baldness. Feeling affected by baldness is not a sign of weakness, it is above all a human reaction to a physical change that is perceived negatively.
Breaking the taboo: Dare to talk about baldness and possible solutions, personal accounts
Despite the large number of men affected (one in two over the age of 50), baldness remains a delicate, almost taboo subject.
- The difficulty of talking about it : Men are often less inclined to discuss their physical complexes. Talking about hair loss is seen as an admission of vulnerability, a departure from the expected 'strong' image. They play it down, saying that "it's all in their heads", as Ali and Jolan have heard all too often. What others have said hereBut it's also easy for baldness to be tolerated as a subject of mockery in society, thus contributing to discomfort.
- The guests also raise the subject of the social perception of baldness: they discuss the stereotype of bald men (often portrayed as villains in the movies, although counterbalanced by action heroes like Bruce Willis or Dwayne Johnson/The Rock). They ask whether baldness is an obstacle to seduction, and conclude that self-confidence is a crucial factorand that a confident bald man can be very attractive. Abaldert points out that when you don't feel good about your baldness, it's hard to be self-confident, creating a vicious circle. Jolan points out that attraction in real life differs from the filters on dating apps, where baldness is often worth an express 'left swipe'. This is an observation we share: on dating apps, appearance is a major factor in filtering (see thearticle supported by studies ). It should also be noted that recent surveys (2024) show that 53% of couples meet on apps ...
- The solutions stigma : If talking about hair loss is difficult, talking about solutions is sometimes even more so. Hair transplants, for example, are seen by some as a superficial act of vanity, whereas they are often a response to real psychological suffering. Fortunately, attitudes are changing. Public figures and influencers are increasingly open about their experiences, whether of hair transplants or coming to terms with baldness, helping to demystify the subject.
Facing up to baldness: A range of options, the different choices explained
When faced with hair loss, there are several possible paths:
Acceptance and shaving:
This is the path chosen by Jolan. For him, embracing his shaved head can be incredibly liberating. Admittedly, it requires regular maintenance (shaving every 2-3 days), but it puts an end to the anxiety of loss and potentially reveals a new facet of his personality, often associated with an image of assertive character. As Jolan points out, self-confidence takes precedence over the presence or absence of hair.
Medicinal and cosmetic treatments:
Adalbert is exploring this avenue. There are a number of recognised medical treatments, such as Minoxidil (topical lotion) and Finasteride (oral tablet). These can slow hair loss and sometimes stimulate a slight regrowth, but require continuous (lifelong) use to maintain the effects. Adalbert mentions his concern about the potential side-effects, which can have a major impact (reduced libido, depression, etc.) (see here ). In all cases, they must be considered and discussed with a doctor. At the same time, solutions such as GWPThe aim of light therapy, for example, is to slow down hair loss and redensify existing hair, offering a less restrictive approach but with variable results depending on the individual. Adalbert therefore prefers this route, with more natural solutions and an interest in light therapy.
Hair transplantation :
The radical permanent solution chosen by Ali. It involves removing hair follicles from a donor area (generally the back and sides of the head, where hair is genetically programmed not to fall out = not sensitive to DHT) and re-implanting them in the balding areas.
Hair transplants: Ali's experience and the technical details
Hair transplants are becoming an increasingly popular and accessible option. Ali, who took the plunge 7 years ago, shares her experience.
- The principle (FUE) : The most common technique used today is FUE (Follicular Unit Extraction). Sapphire FUE and the DHI method. It involves extracting follicles one by one from the donor area, without leaving a linear scar (unlike the old FUT technique). These follicles (or grafts), containing 1 to 4 hairs, are then sorted and prepared.
- The Intervention : Performed under local anaesthetic (so you're conscious, as Ali confirms), the operation lasts several hours (often a whole day, sometimes spread over two mornings/afternoons). The surgeon creates tiny incisions in the recipient area and meticulously implants each graft, respecting its natural orientation and density. It's the work of a goldsmith. Note: Sapphire FUE is a variant of FUE with sapphire blades that are thinner than those used in FUE, for even greater precision and density.
- The donor zone : One crucial point: the donor area is not infinite. The hair removed does not grow back in this area. It is therefore essential to manage this "capital" well (6,000 to 9,000 grafts on average) for possible future touch-ups if baldness continues to develop elsewhere. That's why a consultation with a specialist is essential to assess feasibility and define a long-term strategy.
- The post-operative period : The first few days require special care (gentle shampoos, avoiding rubbing, sleeping in a semi-seated position). Oedema may appear on the forehead. The implanted hair generally falls out in the weeks that follow (this is normal, it's the "hair loss" process). normal."), then definitive regrowth begins after 3-4 months. The final result is generally visible after 12 months, sometimes earlier for the lucky ones.
- Ali's anecdote: The story of the graft implanted in Ali's hand at his request is an amusing illustration of his experience, showing the sometimes surreal nature of the operation! This hair, still present 7 years later, is a testament to the viability of the grafts.
- Cost and medical tourism: Price remains an important factor. Prices vary considerably between France and countries such as Turkey, which has become a leading destination for this type of operation. While prices there are attractive, caution is called for: you need to be sure of the seriousness of the clinic, the qualifications of the staff and the hygiene conditions to avoid complications or disappointing results. We invite you to read our article on how to choose your clinic.
Some Klineva hair transplant results
After the decision: finding serenity, with or without hair
Whether you choose to shave, treat, graft or do nothing, the ultimate goal is often to regain a sense of peace with your image.
- Confidence restored: Jolan has gained in confidence by embracing his shaved head. Ali, thanks to his transplant, has had a better experience of his thirties. Adalbert, by exploring solutions, has regained some control over the situation. The key seems to lie in aligning his appearance with his inner feelings.
- Redefining attractiveness : Attractiveness is more than just hair. Charisma, self-confidence, style and humour are all assets. A man who embraces his baldness (shaved or natural) with confidence can be just as, or even more, attractive than a man who has a complex about his thinning hair. Just as a man with transplanted hair is just as handsome, with an ultimately natural beauty (it's always a question of transplanting one's own hair and recovering a head of hair that once existed).
Conclusion: Your journey, your choice with regard to baldness
Hair loss is a deeply personal and often difficult experience for men. The complex is real, the impact on confidence significant, and the taboo / stigma combined with mockery often makes the journey a lonely one. Fortunately, options exist and are becoming more widely available. From the serene acceptance of a shaved head to cosmetic or medicinal treatments, right through to the more radical solution of a hair transplant. There really is a renaissance just in making a choice, and every man should take the path that suits him best.
The most important thing is to be informed, to consult competent professionals (dermatologists, specialist surgeons, clinics), and to make an informed decision, in agreement with yourself. Never forget that your value and attractiveness go far beyond your hair density. Self-confidence and self-acceptance, whichever option you choose, remain your most powerful assets.
In a nutshell: what you need to know about the male baldness taboo
- ✅ The impact of male pattern baldness Video testimonials ("LA CALVITIE ENTRE MECS") Loss of identity (e.g. Ali and his curls), precocious complexes (Adalbert at 17)
- ✅ Societal taboo: 50% of men affected >50 years old, but it's difficult to talk about it
- ✅3 courses of action to combat baldness (Testimonials): 1) Acceptance (Jolan) *Full shave | 🔑 Psychological release 2) Treatments (Adalbert) *Minoxidil/Finasteride/PRP/luminotherapy | ⚠️ Side effects of medication + ongoing treatment 3) Hair transplant (Ali) *FUE/FUE Saphir technique | 🌟 Permanent and natural result
- ✅ Ali recounts her hair transplant: Perennial donor zone but also limited, natural 100% regrowth (e.g.: grafted hair in Ali's hand still there after 7 years)
- ✅ Where to have a hair transplant : France vs. Turkey (integrated clinical choice guide)
Similar questions
Baldness is undermining my morale... Is it normal to feel so bad?
It's normal, and above all human.
Like Ali with his lost curls or Adalbert destabilised at 17, your hair is part of your identity. Society has an image of youth linked to hair and tolerates far too much mockery and denigration of baldness. So it's legitimate to feel vulnerable.
Good news: there are solutions to help you regain your peace of mind and confidence 💪
I'm losing my hair at a very young age (like Adalbert). What options do I have?
Acting early changes the game!
Medicinal or other treatments (Minoxidil, PRP, laser, Finasteride) are likely to slow the fall if started early. But beware of the side-effects of medication, which you should be aware of see here. Whatever the case, you should seek professional medical advice. Another option is to take responsibility for shaving, like Jolan, which frees you from obsession. Finally, a transplant is preferably later, when the loss has stabilised. Or early on, with a good clinic, to plan for the long term and manage the donor area wisely.
I'm afraid of being judged if I opt for a hair transplant or a shave... How do I deal with the way other people look at me?
Your well-being comes first.
As our article points out, the taboo surrounding baldness is gradually being broken. Men like Jolan (shaved) and Ali (transplanted) are demonstrating one thing: self-confidence disarms critics. Embrace your choice with pride. After all, it's your story, not theirs. Surround yourself with people who will support you and understand your pain. Look for support in online communities such as hairloss forum francophone or other on reddit.
What if my baldness progresses after the transplant? Do I have to start all over again?
Don't panic!
That's why a prior consultation is crucial. An expert surgeon will assess your "donor capital" (the resistant hair at the back of your head) and plan a long-term strategy. Targeted touch-ups or second sessions (depending on the stage of loss) are entirely possible. If well planned, a transplant is often sufficient for 15 years or more.